topic: [[Feedback]] created: 2023-02-10 *Bring the [[Basic Assumption]] to your whole being, especially when holding people's learning safety.* This reminds me of [[psychological safety]] and even more so [[Psychic Flourishing]] in the moment of participating at the [[optimal challenge point]] It's kind of like having one of your [[keystone habits]] being a way of thinking about the humans around you "For constructive personality change to occur, it is necessary that these conditions exist and continue over a period of time: (1) Two persons are in psychological contact. (2) The first, whom we shall term the client, is in a state of incongruence, being vulnerable or anxious. (3) The second person, whom we shall term the therapist, is congruent or integrated in the relationship. (4) The therapist experiences [[unconditional positive regard]] for the client. (5) The therapist experiences an empathic understanding of the client's internal frame of reference and endeavors to communicate this experience to the client. (6) The communication to the client of the therapist's empathic understanding and unconditional positive regard is to a minimal degree achieved." (APA PsycInfo Database Record (c) 2016 APA, all rights reserved) This matters because if people are able to feel your love, when they invariably struggle, the positive regard allows you to ask, [[Do you want to be helped, heard or hugged?]] ##### What would the opposite argument be? Some people are douches! %% tags: #note/idea | #on/love | #on/psychologicalsafety | #on/cbt %% ##### Sources: Rogers, C. R. (1957). The necessary and sufficient conditions of therapeutic personality change. _Journal of Consulting Psychology, 21_(2), 95–103. [https://doi.org/10.1037/h0045357](https://psycnet.apa.org/doi/10.1037/h0045357)