topic: [[Changing]] created: 2023-05-07 *by listening to the body instead of the mind, needs can be transformed into wants, thus releasing constraints.* This reminds me of [[ways of knowing]] like [[Embodied Cognition]], how my body can know while my mind can be blind, like the [[Expert Blind Spot]]. It's kind of like [[uncover to cover]], let my experiences uncover to [[turn wounds into wisdom]] by allowing the [[pain of learning]] to occur, since [[wisdom can't be told]]. This is an idea that I experienced contemplating the [[🐓 Idea Farm/Deadfall/For myself only/Readwise/Books/Way of the Peaceful Warrior]], and the bigger themes and take-aways. Moving needs to wants is the first step towards [[acceptance]], and acceptance is the first step towards embracing. [[2023 Year of "embrace"]] By properly identifying things (ideas, futures, relationships, experiences, outcomes) that are actually wants that I used to think were needs, I can undergo [[cognitive reframing]] and thus free myself of previous constraints. If I can release a relationship from a need to a want, I can meet people where they are, do a better job [[Listening to Understand]], and just overall avoid pressuring them and having a resultant [[reactance]]. The counterintuitive learning of relationships is this release of them to be anything specific is one of the keys to making them strong. ##### What would the opposite argument be? What should I let go of? Not everything, for sure, but what are the boundaries of this thinking? I certainly have reasonable needs in terms of relationships. Do I want to let go of love from my children? Can I honestly apply [[🐓 Idea Farm/Deadfall/For myself only/Readwise/Books/Trying Not to Try]] here? tags: #note/idea ##### Sources: [[🐓 Idea Farm/Deadfall/For myself only/Readwise/Books/Way of the Peaceful Warrior]]