%% [[Peak performance]] people:: Lon Setnik dates:: 2022-11-08 %% *For every push there's an equal and opposite push.* This reminds me of [[Wu Wei]], and [[be like water]], ideas for being your best during the present situation as opposed to trying to create the situation. It's kind of like creating a moment for [[Identifying Reality]] so that you can understand the situation that is really needed. [[Negotiate to Optimize not Compromise]] allows you to find the space of agreement then finding the disagreement. Since [[appreciation balances our negative tilt]], appreciation is a tool for pull. This is a #on/philosophy of life that helps guide choice. This is a framing [[choice architectures]] that will be helpful as an approach to solving problems without complaining ### What would the opposite argument be? Sometimes pushing is what is needed for people to see how they have made things "unfair." Since [[righteous indignation is my kryptonite]], I am prone to pushing during those moments because they are triggers for me. %% tags: #note/statement %% ## Sources: Slingerland, E. G. (2014). _Trying not to try: The art and science of spontaneity_ (First Edition). Crown Publishers.