[[Deciding]] tags:: #note/idea | #on/solutions | #on/design | #on/life | #on/cbt Lon Setnik dates:: 2022-10-17 *Problems that pull you down with the weight of permanence are gravity or anchor problems.* This reminds me of [[Thinking in Systems]], and how we need to focus not on changing the who but the why [[start with why]] to make the biggest changes in our outcomes of the system of our life. It's kind of like using [[Inquiry]] to ask why the only solutions are the one we can see. The purpose of this is to create ways to [[prototype]] solutions. This is a design-based solution to big life problems that weigh you down through [[Design thinking]] with the goal that my life is better when I [[Design my life to live]] the way I want. - Anchor problems tend to occur when we’ve turned an assumed answer into a question. - Gravity problems are defined by immovable circumstances, either because they’re beyond your control or because you’re not willing to change them. Steps to solving these and other big problems: 1) acceptance - [[Identifying Reality]] 2) reframing the problem to make it more actionable 3) prototyping solutions to figure out what really works for you - find possible solutions - do small tests - [[premortem]]s before big commitments This matters because sometimes we get stuck, and we can get unstuck with some [[cognitive reframing]] of not just the possible solutions, but more importantly, how the problem fits in our life. ### What would the opposite argument be? When the problem seems permanent, it probably is! You can't change the world just by changing ## Sources: Eliza Brooke. (2022, October 14). How to reframe (and solve) a tricky life problem. _How to Reframe (and Solve) a Tricky Life Problem_. [https://www.vox.com/even-better/23402483/](https://www.vox.com/even-better/23402483/)