[[Learning]] tags:: #note/statement Lon Setnik dates:: 2022-08-12 *when you think you know, you have no idea.* This reminds me of how we [[climb the ladder of inference]] instead of using the data to drive understanding. It's kind of like [[diagnosing conflict]], instead of working on the surface get to the [[cognitive frames]], the [[Developing Values]]. This needs to be a [[Forming Habits]] that changes through [[To build better habits, change your identity]]. This is a statement that should guide my interaction with others. When I feel the need to dominate, I need to backup and try to understand. This matters because if I really want to create change, [[the way to change the world is by changing yourself]]. And, since you really can never change others, you should just seek to understand them. People get defensive when they are told what to do, according to [[change is the normal state]]. This would be giving extreme empathy. ### What would the opposite argument be? - People do impact me, and I have a right to tell them about that impact. But I can do it embedded in A/I. ## Sources: You think you know, but you have no idea https://www.podbean.com/ew/pb-48m5p-1245a07