topic: [[Mentoring]] people: #people/bradstuhlberg created: 2023-09-25 *If I have one identity, I am trapped if conditions change.* This reminds me of [[Design my life to live]] and wanting to not be trapped by [[black swan events]], or simple changing conditions. Having a diversity of identities is a way of thinking of myself as being more than just one thing. The goal would be for my to move beyond a life of resilience to living with [[Antifragility]] in my identity. - If I'm a runner and I get hurt, where do I go? If I have identities of being "Fit, wholesome, and present" I can be flexible to the moment, the conditions, and my identity can grow even if I sprain my ankle or lose a leg to cancer. ##### What would the opposite argument be? Without [[focus attention]], you can never achieve as much in your domain of excellence. A diversity of identity could result in a diversity of attention. _Possible solution to this dilemma is taking caution crafting your identity too narrowly. If your identity is "family man" and you lose your family, that puts you in a bind. If your identity is "unrestricted lover of those I am close to" you can flex to conditions_ tags: #note/idea | #on/identity | #on/resiliency | ##### Sources: https://roborman.com/stimulus/109-is-your-identity-holding-you-back/ https://www.thedeeplife.com/podcasts/episodes/ep-264-in-depth-how-to-master-change-with-brad-stulberg/