%% [[Deciding]] tags:: #note/thing people:: #people/byronkatie | #people/timferris # A simple no Lon Setnik dates:: 2022-07-19 %% *When you say "No" without a reason, people cannot argue with your no.* Tracking helped make say "No" an option. Helped them see what they said No and Yes to. This reminds me of [[Hell Yes or No]], how you have to decide when to say No, and also How to say No. The question is how do we figure out what we say Yes to? It's kind of like [[default mode]] being No, simply what is it: "Thank you, and No" being the initial response to any opportunity. **Treat your inbox like your home, it's an extension of your home so if somebody walks in unannounced they don't have a right to be there.** If I change my mind I will let you know. With love in your heart and appreciation for the other person and their struggles and acknowledgment of their struggles that's all you need to say This matters because [[If you cannot say no then you cannot choose your yesses]], and if you cannot say "No" well, then you will not keep your No's ### What would the opposite argument be? You never know where an opportunity will lead. ## Sources: Byron Katie runs a program on personal development, Tim Ferris had Elizabeth Gilbert on his pod: https://tim.blog/2020/05/17/elizabeth-gilbert-transcript/ https://www.youtube.com/watch?app=desktop&v=wawVJ2lOX-Y is a description of the conversation https://www.calnewport.com/podcast/ - episode 213 Cravens, A. E., Nelson, R. L., Siders, A. R., & Ulibarri, N. (2022). Why four scientists spent a year saying no. _Nature_, d41586-022-02325–3. [https://doi.org/10.1038/d41586-022-02325-3](https://doi.org/10.1038/d41586-022-02325-3)