[[Forming Identity]] Responsibility is now Fault is past Fault and responsibility are not the same thing. They exist together in the US because of many of our legal interpretations, as they should. You can be responsible for things that are not your fault (he used the example of a baby dropped off on your step). When you take **extreme responsibility** you recognize that although you are not at fault in certain situations, you are responsible for your own feelings. No one makes you feel anything, you feel and are responsible for your feelings. You have needs that drive those feelings but no one _makes_ you feel anything. Examples: Cynthia is not at fault for having gotten 19 chickens, I am. She _is_ responsible for the chickens wellness while I'm away. Sources: [[The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck]] [[🐓 Idea Farm/Deadfall/For myself only/Readwise/Books/Nonviolent Communication]]