[[Relating]] Lon Setnik dates:: 2022-11-11 *At least when it's out in the open you can agree to disagree.* This reminds me of [[first seek to understand]] It's kind of like [[scientific process]], you have to get your hypothesis before you collect your data This is a description of the key to creating a [[shared mental model]], making the implicit exlicit. This is key because our [[exteroception]] does not help us understand people as much as asking the right questions, since [[the answers you get come from the questions you ask]]. This matters because we often make [[Assumptions]] about our partners in conversations, and those assumptions are often incorrect. This leads to a misunderstanding about the data, which leads to a misunderstading, eventually, about the action. Just like in [[🐓 Idea Farm/3 Inbox of ideas/situational awareness]]. ### What would the opposite argument be? We don't want to upset feelings or create bad emotional state, since [[Emotions live between people rather than within]] by naming specific disagreements. Not everyone in all cultures like having things explicit. %% tags: #note/statement | #on/relationships | #on/feedback | %% ## Sources: [[🐓 Idea Farm/Deadfall/For myself only/Readwise/Books/Thanks for the Feedback]]