topic: [[People Growing]] created: 2023-07-01 *The trait that makes you likely to get along with others.* This reminds me of [[management is doing things right, leadership is doing the right things]], agreeable people struggle to do the right things because it might upset some people. what is it? **agreeableness** is a personality trait that manifests as behavior that is perceived as kind, sympathetic, cooperative, warm, frank, and considerate. In contemporary personality psychology, agreeableness is one of the five major dimensions of personality structure, reflecting individual differences in cooperation and social harmony.People whose measured agreeableness is high are empathetic and altruistic, while those with low agreeableness are prone to selfish behavior (often manifesting as stinginess) and a lack of empathy. Those whose measured agreeableness is very low show signs of dark triad behavior such as manipulation and competing with others rather than cooperating.Agreeableness is considered to be a superordinate trait, meaning that it is a grouping of personality sub-traits that cluster together statistically. The lower-level traits, or facets that are grouped under agreeableness are: trust, straightforwardness, altruism, compliance, modesty, and tender-mindedness. > [Wikipedia](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Agreeableness) why does it matter? wanting to be liked can make it difficult for you to give legitimate [[Feedback]]. Those who are more agreeable have a more difficult time with honest conversations. They need enabling [[cognitive frames]] to allow them to be honest. ##### What would the opposite argument be? Over the long term, [[trust]] is more important than being "liked" for me. Being trusted is what I aim for. Might not be the same for everyone though. tags: #note/thing | #on/personality | #on/feedback | #on/feelings ##### Sources: [Wikipedia:Agreeableness](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Agreeableness)