*At least when it's out in the open you can agree to disagree.*
This reminds me of [[first seek to understand]]
It's kind of like [[scientific process]], you have to get your hypothesis before you collect your data
This is a description of the key to creating a [[shared mental model]], making the implicit exlicit. This is key because our [[exteroception]] does not help us understand people as much as asking the right questions, since [[the answers you get come from the questions you ask]].
This matters because we often make [[Assumptions]] about our partners in conversations, and those assumptions are often incorrect. This leads to a misunderstanding about the data, which leads to a misunderstading, eventually, about the action. Just like in [[situational awareness]].
### What would the opposite argument be?
We don't want to upset feelings or create bad emotional state, since [[Emotions live between people rather than within]] by naming specific disagreements. Not everyone in all cultures like having things explicit.
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