# Internal Magnified Resistance **When and why do I push back? What motivates me?** I think there are several reasons: 1. Fear of finding my limits 2. Fear of giving up control of my: - Narrative? --- ## Holy Shit I’m remembering writing this same thing—was it last year or 10 years ago? Grrr. So, what I might need is to acknowledge that this is a part of me. To recognize what problem do I have to apply to this situation? ### How about **[[Speaking Up]]** - **REACT** - **REFRAME ** - **ENGAGE ** --- I have to let myself have my reaction. Can I start to just notice what it looks like? There’s a part of me that is “speaking up.” And that is a core piece of me. I can call him “Loony.” I can have compassion for Loony, and I can help Loony undergo → [[cognitive reframing]] of the moment. Loony is reacting because “That’s just how he is. He hated being told what to do.” **Reframe:** Loony might be missing an opportunity to… 1. Have fun 2. Feel good 3. Be viewed as “quirky fun Uncle” **Engage:** Why do I want Loony to control how much fun I have? I can wrestle control back of my narrative. ---